HELLO FRIENDS, I HAVE A PROMO POST FOR YOU TODAY! DENIAL DECEIT DISCOVERY IS A TRUE STORY, AND IT LOOKS SO GOOD I CAN'T WAIT TO READ IT (I THINK I MIGHT NEED TISSUES)! I HAVE THE BOOK INFO AND BLURB, LINKS, AN EXCERPT, Q&A WITH JAMES, AND AUTHOR BIO WITH LINKS, AS WELL AS THE REST OF THE TOUR DATES, AND A RAFFLECOPTER GIVEAWAY SO LET'S GET TO IT:
Author Name: J. James
Book Name: Denial, Deceit, Discovery
Release Date: May, 2013
Denial, Deceit, Discovery is the heart-rending story based on true events in the life of Jack Ellis; a young Catholic man deep in denial of his own homosexuality. It tells the story of how his own denial and the denial of his loved ones forced him to conform to the straight world, resulting in his marriage to his high school sweetheart. After years of cruising gay porn sites, chatting online with endless guys and intimate encounters with close friends, Jack was pulled into a life of deceit with a string of sexual partners.
The story explains the pain and suffering of those around him as his secrets unfold and honesty rises up. The torture endured as Jack struggles to piece together the complex story of his own sexuality is truly moving. Escaping the shame, Jack flees to Bangkok with his gay lover where a much greater world of deceit and discovery awaits them both.
Denial, deceit, discovery will make you laugh, cry, cringe and blush as Jack's story unfolds from a life of shame to one of hope and acceptance for homosexual men.
(TISSUES FOR SURE ;P), HERE ARE THE COVER AND LINKS:
NOW FOR AN EXCERPT:
'Did you ever think of men when you masturbated?'
Sometimes I cannot believe I have arrived at this point. This is one of many direct and personal questions from the Catholic priest dealing with my annulment. I cannot help but sense his judgement of me. From his failure to hide his disgust to the way his sunken, weathered eyes glare at me as he waits for my sordid responses. I am sitting in a room that reminds me of a nursing home. It is bitterly cold; though I'm not sure if I am shivering from the cold or the depth of questioning. Excessively floral wallpaper with clashing printed soft furnishings was never a good look. The mahogany 70's style furniture pieces marked the perimeter of the room and the over-sized portrait of God's beloved son hanging above the chimneybreast was particularly distracting. I did not feel comfortable discussing my love of cock with a priest, let alone with Jesus in the room!
Two years after our thirteen year relationship ended, I have been instructed by my now ex-wife to visit the priest to support her annulment application - a Catholic loophole that allows two Catholics to declare that their marriage never truly existed. We have to prove that I was incapable of willingly entering into the marriage due to my underlying, yet undiscovered, homosexuality. Personally I do not have the patience for this, but it is a small gift for my ex-wife that will enable her to one day remarry in the eyes of God.
In 2001 we married after seven happy years and we stayed married for another six, although maybe these were not as happy as the first seven. And why did I do it? Why did I marry a girl when the answer to the opening question was YES! Quite simply, because I loved her. When I stood there on the day of our wedding it never entered my mind that I was lying, or trying to cover up or trick anyone. I simply loved her and wanted to spend my entire life with her. On reflection, I guess I knew I was gay but I certainly did not want to live my life as a gay man. At that point I had never admitted to myself that I was indeed gay; something I have come to regret. It was not out of malice or false intentions, rather just total confusion and denial; born out of an upbringing in a straight, Catholic world. The signs were all there, but no one ever asked me the question and, therefore, I had no reason to even question it myself.
I have spent many a sleepless night trying to piece together the complex story of my sexuality and can now define three distinct periods in my life: one of denial, one of deceit and a final time of discovery. To some extent they are chronological but there are many overlaps whilst in each phase of my life. When I finally declared my sexuality at the age of thirty-one, I ended the thirty-one years of denial - a pretty hefty sentence for anyone! To some extent I am still there now. But there have been many exciting and somewhat dangerous discoveries along the way; from early childhood fumbles with girls, mutual masturbation sessions with male friends as teenagers first discovering porn, to naive visits to male prostitutes as a young man and random hook ups with strangers off the internet as a married man. With some of these discoveries came webs of deceit shrouded in guilt, lies and more confusion. But it was these very experiences that have shaped the gay man I am today - one who has found true monogamous love.
Since accepting my homosexuality, many people have used the line, ‘You had a choice...’ but to me it was anything but a choice. In fact, I would say I did everything possible to choose not to be gay and despite my greatest efforts to suppress who I really was; eventually it came and bit me on the arse anyway.
WOW, THIS IS GONNA BE INTENSE FOR SURE FRIENDS! HERE IS A SHORT BIO AND SOCIAL LINKS FOR JAMES!
James currently lives and works in Southeast Asia. He enjoys the tropical climate, and the relaxed pace, which has provided him with the opportunity to continue developing ideas for his second novel.
Where to find the author:
Facebook Author Page: https://www.facebook.com/jack.ellis.5220
Goodreads Link: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/7159734.J_James
NOW FOR A SHORT q & a WITH JAMES: YOU WILL LOVE THESE ANSWERS!
Today I’m very lucky to be interviewing J. James, author of Denial Deceit Discovery:
Hi James, thank you for agreeing to this interview. Tell us a little about yourself, your background, and your current book.
Thank you for this opportunity to share with you my debut novel, Denial Deceit Discovery which is a memoir based on true events in my life when coming to terms with my homosexuality. I am currently a Principal of a school in Thailand, having worked in education for the past 17 years. I completed Denial Deceit Discovery in May 2013 and I am now working on my second novel which will be a M/M Romance. I am originally from the UK but moved to Thailand about 7 years ago in search of a sunnier climate and more relaxed pace of life.
Wow, I can't wait to check out these books, and it must be challenging to work as a Principal, but also very rewarding! Now for the questions:
- What book do you wish you could have written?
I wish I could have written 50 Shades of Grey – look at the success! I know people have a lot to say about the literary quality but the book stimulated so much debate and discussion around so many topics – women’s sexuality, S & M, the publishing industry, the role of social media in creating a frenzy etc. Whatever you opinion of the book – who would not love to have been the author behind such a phenomenon. But on a more serious note I wish I could have written Harry Potter because I have dedicated my life as a teacher to motivating children, especially boys to read and I think JK Rowling achieved this. That would have been a great reward for me.
Bec- I haven't read 50 Shades, but it sure did rake in the money that's for sure, is this where I get lynched for admitting to not having read/seen Harry Potter either?
- How important are names to you (in your books)? Do you choose names based on liking the way it sounds or meaning? How do you choose your names?
I find it incredibly difficult to find names for characters in books – my mind always goes blank so I tend to use the names of real people I already know which is not always a good thing because a personality or a physical appearance often comes attached to the name then. But I think the sound of the name is really important to me – it helps me to connect with the character when I write about them and so I am sure it has the same effect on readers.
Bec- I would have to do the same, it would get too confusing otherwise ;p!
- Were you already a great writer? Have you always enjoyed writing? How long have you been writing?
I am not sure I would ever describe myself as a great writer – I am a writer who tries hard and writes from the heart. Denial Deceit Discovery is actually my first book and now I am on my second. I have spend so much time teaching pupils about creative writing skills but never explored it personally. I had always wanted to write children’s books and planned to explore this once I retired.
Bec- I am sure there is a big difference between teaching it, and applying it yourself!
- Which character, from any of your books, do you consider your greatest work?
It is difficult to answer this question about my first book because the characters are all based on real-life people so I do not feel that I ‘created’ them and can therefore take credit for them. But I have a real fondness of Jack which is strange because essentially he is me. But I guess writing about my story through Jack enabled me to step back a little and I actually feel really proud of the man he evolved into. I am proud of how he coped with the difficulties and challenges he faced and of how he remained a good person even when some of his choices were bad.
Bec- I imagine that would be hard to write your story yourself, though it might make for cheap therapy! ;)
- What hobbies do you enjoy?
I have a really demanding day job so when I am not working or writing I really enjoy keeping fit and working out in the gym. I love to travel and my long holidays enable me to do this. Being in Thailand I am central to South East Asia and have been fortunate enough to explore so many neighbouring countries.
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